Wedding dilemas – Should I add plus ones to single guests invitations?

In the second of our wedding dilemas we’re looking at whether single guests invitations should always have a plus one.

Call me harsh but unless the person doesn’t know anyone else at the wedding I would personally say no.  At the end of the day most couples deliberate for weeks on end who to invite to their wedding so the guest list doesn’t become out of control along with the budget.  We started with a large guest list in the first place in comparison to many weddings but still there are people I know Mr AATN would like to upgrade from evening to day and so to invite a guest we’ve never even met and really probably won’t be very interested in the wedding itself would seem inappropriate.  We would naturally sit single guests with groups of people they already know and if we did have a single guest who didn’t really know anyone we would invite them with a plus one.  Again I think most reasonable people wouldn’t expect you to pay for a stranger to attend your wedding especially at venues with food and drinks packages which often result in you paying upwards of £70 a head with canapes, food, drinks, evening buffet etc…

Advice from our group of now married brides on how they handled the issue:

“We didn’t add plus one’s to single guest invitations because it was such a small do, however some evening guests did contact us before the day to ask if we minded them bringing along their mum/new partner etc. and as we had a clearer idea of confirmed numbers by then and as some people weren’t able to make it we had spaces and were then able to say ‘yes of course you can'”

 “We did add plus ones to ours which was fine, there wasn’t many single people but a guest did bring an aquaintence who wasn’t invited who tried to smuggle drink in!!”
“Plus one only if you have the room and only if you can afford it.”

“I didn’t invite any friends or extended family guests to the actual ceremony, only parents were invited. It wasn’t to exclude anyone but hubby is intensely private and didn’t want an audience. The venues webcam let me get the audience I wanted but without the groom feeling like he was on show. Everyone else could watch on the webcam either in groups, on their own or anyone else they were with at the time of the ceremony (they could have been on a bus watching it on their phone surrounded by strangers!!!)”

“This wasn’t so much of a problem at our wedding as most people we knew were married or in long term relationships. We had one single friend, I didn’t put a plus one on the invite as I didn’t want some random person coming to my wedding reception and paying for a meal for someone I didn’t know but I did agree to her bring a friend for the night do which wasn’t so bad.”

Other great advice on this I’ve found at :

http://www.rocknrollbride.com/2012/01/do-you-have-to-invite-plus-ones-to-your-wedding/

Is this proving an issue for you? Any thoughts or advice always welcome below

Andrea

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